HOW TO KISS : KISSING TIPS AND ADVICE

HOW TO KISS : KISSING TIPS AND ADVICE 

KISSING SIGNALS

1) Drop hints that you're interested. You can put out some subtle signals that you're angling for a kiss without coming right out and saying it. Here's how to communicate it romantically:

Get caught looking (briefly) at the other person's lips.

Don't purse your lips. Keep them softly parted — not so much that you could breathe comfortably through the opening, but enough that you could bite your bottom lip easily.

Make your mouth appealing. Use chapstick or lipgloss to smooth over flaky lips, and keep your breath fresh with mints or spray. Avoid gum, which you might have to spit out awkwardly if the other person goes in for a kiss.





2) Break the kiss barrier (optional). If you're feeling brave, test the waters with a small kiss on the hand or the cheek. If the other person seems interested, it's probably safe to proceed with a kiss on the mouth.

If you're kissing a girl: Take her hand and slowly lift it to your mouth. Gently press your lips into the back of your hand for 2 or 3 seconds before breaking away.

If you're kissing a guy: Lean in and plant a 2- or 3-second kiss on his cheek. Keep your lips soft, and avoid puckering like you would if you were kissing a family member. If you want your intentions to be extra clear, aim for the part of his cheek just to the side of his lips.





3) Set the mood with a romantic compliment. Go big and pay the other person the sincerest compliment you can think of. If you get it right, the other person might take the lead and lean in to kiss you.

4) Say it in an intimate way. Lower the volume and tone of your voice slightly, and lock eyes. Not only does this communicate that you have deep feelings for this person, it entices him or her to come closer to hear you.

5) Focus on an alluring quality. Even if you truly think that your date is an amazing basketball player, now might not be the best time to bring it up. Instead, base your compliment on how you see your date as a romantic partner. Try these lines:

"You are SO beautiful."

"Your eyes drive me crazy."

"I love to see you smile."




6) Consider asking for a kiss directly. If all else fails, go for broke and state your intentions. If your date hasn't picked up on any of your hints and you're dying to lock lips, you might as well be straightforward and just ask if you can kiss him or her. Don't worry, though — you can be direct while still being romantic and compelling. Try these phrases if you're at a loss for words:

"I'd love nothing more than to kiss you right now."

"I'm sorry if this is too forward, but I'd really like to kiss you."

"I want to kiss you so much that it is just about killing me."




7) Go in for the kiss. Don't waste any time once you have the go-ahead — close your eyes, lean in and smooch![2] The next sections will discuss some kissing techniques, as well as how to handle kissing in different dating situations such as a first kiss or kissing after a date.





8) Keep your lips soft. Tense puckers are for family members or people you're obligated to kiss, but keeping your mouth slightly parted and soft communicates a sense of openness.





9) Do a few soft kisses. Start slow with soft, gentle kisses and skip the tongue and the teeth — for now. If your partner seems receptive, you can move forward to French kissing.

10) Try to avoid letting your lips smack. The noise can be distracting, and might break your immersion in the moment. If you do find yourself smacking, slow down and part your lips a bit more.

11) Stay light at first. Avoid smashing your lips against your date's mouth — for now. Kissing softly and gently gives the other person the chance to stop if it's uncomfortable, as well as allowing you to gauge his or her interest.





12) Stay at a manageable level of saliva. Slobbery puppies are the last thing you want your date thinking of while you kiss him or her. Avoid this fate by swallowing excess saliva occasionally. If you notice that your lips are a bit too wet, pull away and discreetly purse them to bring the extra spit back into your mouth.





13) "Lock" lips. If your initial kisses have gone well, try a lip lock, which can lead to closer kisses (and is a nice gateway for French kissing). Basically, you'll "stack" your lips so that (for instance) it looks like this:

Your lower lip

Your partner's lower lip

Your upper lip

Your partner's upper lip

At first, putting your partner's lower lip between yours is the safest bet. Most people have larger lower lips, making them easier to grab gently with your lips.





14) Make sure to breathe. Ideally, you'll be able to breathe softly through your nose while you're kissing. If that's not possible, though, break away for a second to take a breath.

KISSING CONSCIOUS

15) Don't feel self-conscious about being out of breath or needing to take a break for a second. Breathing hard is an indication that you're nervous and excited, which your partner will probably find flattering.

16) Use your hands. Don't just let your hands hang at your sides like two limp fettuccini noodles — put them to good use



17)  Place your hands lightly on your partner's shoulders or around his or her waist. (In culture, girls generally put their hands on a boys shoulders while he puts his hands round her waist.)



18) Take the intimacy up a notch by pulling your partner in closer.



19) Put your hands on the perimeters of his or her face, using your thumb to brush across the cheekbone, or put one hand under his or her chin and tilt it upward.[6]



20) Another seriously sensual move is to place both hands round the back of your partner's head and tangle them in his or her hair, gently pulling.





21) Test using tongue. Once you're during a lip lock together with your partner's lower lip between both of yours, lightly run the tip of your tongue over it. If you'll be able to move it slowly, even better.



22) See how your partner responds. If he or she presses in closer or returns the gesture, you're probably clear to stay increasing the intensity of the kiss. If your date pulls away, maybe it is best to tug back the tongue for now and follow lips-only kisses.







23) Try French kissing (optional). Using your tongue during a kiss is, in culture, noted as a kiss. Why do the French get the credit? Who knows! Here's a way to get started:



24) Sweep your tongue along the within of your partner's lower lip. attempt to creep and lightly initially, increasing speed and pressure providing your partner seems to reply well.



25) Slide the tip of your tongue inside your partner's mouth and gently move it against the tip of his or her tongue. Use light, darting motions and keep your tongue moving — letting it sit limply in your partner's mouth isn't appealing and can bring a fast end to the kissing.

KISSING STROKES

26) Try deeper and harder strokes if your partner seems responsive.




27) Mix it up. do not feel obligated to stay the intensive tongue activity going forever. Alternate soft and hard, slow and fast, deep and shallow. you'll be able to even return to using only your lips for some minutes.



28) Alternating your technique will keep your partner from having the ability to predict what's coming next. Maintaining this sense of surprise and spontaneity helps your kisses avoid becoming stale.





29) Gently nibble your partner's lips (optional). Teeth aren't a necessary element of kissing, but a grazing them over your partner's lip can introduce another unexpected element. Here are some quick pointers:



30) Keep the pressure as light as possible. Remember that you're getting to nibble, not bite.

31)  Move slowly. Again, keeping your pace gentle will help prevent accidentally chomping on your partner's lip.



32) When your lips are locked, place your teeth over your partner's lower lip and slowly pull back until your teeth are almost at the top of the lip. Pause for a flash, then resume kissing as was common.



33) Don't get away the biters an excessive amount of. they must be an occasional perk, not the most attraction.



34) Be prepared for rejection. Not everyone likes a side of teeth with their kisses. If your partner doesn't respond well, try to not be too offended — it's probably a matter of private taste, not a lapse in your technique.



35) Increase the intensity with occasional breaks. turn away for a flash to appear into your partner's eyes, whisper something in his or her ear, or just catch your breath and marvel at your success.

KISSING PARTNER

36) Instead of putting a damper on the action, these small moments can actually make kissing more intimate. It gives your partner the sense that you just see him or her as a whole person, and not simply something to kiss.

37) Try to pick a trustworthy partner. Smooching someone you trust can ease plenty of the anxiety of your first kiss. If you knew you were giving someone his or her first kiss you'd attempt to wait and understanding, so expect the identical of your partner.



38) Keep in mind that an ungainly first kiss is not the end of the connection (or the world). Actually, it can build intimacy through having a shared experience. As long as you'll be able to laugh it off, you will be fine.

39) Remember, everyone has versed having their first kiss. Odds are that almost all people are more awkward about it than you will be, whether or not you do not comprehend it.



40) Prepare your mouth. Use chapstick or lipgloss to slur over chapped lips, and brush your teeth and tongue well. If your mouth feels a bit stale, use breath mints or spray to bathe.



41) Knowing that your mouth is clean and appealing can facilitate your feel more confident about kissing.



42) That being said, though, do not feel such as you must obsess over cleanliness. Most mouths just "taste" warm, unless you've recently eaten something pungent (like onions or garlic) or you've just woken up within the morning.



43) Don’t rush. you merely get one first kiss! Unless you’re both so overwhelmed with desire that you just should kiss without delay or the globe will end, draw it out. It is tremendously exciting and sensual to tease the kiss before it happens, keeping eye contact the entire time.



44) Let the opposite person take the lead (optional). If you're nervous about not knowing the proper techniques, let your partner initiate what happens during the kiss. Imitate what he or she does until you're comfortable trying your own moves.